Hereâs how to avoid the traps that inhibit a questioning culture in many organizations:
- Avoid Using Questions Like a Hammer. In companies that swing the questioning pendulum too far in the direction of intense inquiry, you often find know-it-alls using questions as a way to stroke their ego and show off. When questions are used as a hammer to drive an existing viewpoint rather than as a flashlight to shine light on new ones, you donât elicit productive reflection. To remedy this, focus on empowering rather than disempowering questions, which weâll outline in the ModEl Practices section of this chapter. When in doubt, offer a healthy mix of authentic empathy and sharp curiosity in your questions. I once offered the following private feedback to a constant questioner who was grandstanding a bit and creating unneeded tension in the room: âWisdom is whatever is left after youâve run out of your opinions. Be careful not to use questions as a means of just expressing a strongly held belief.â
- Know When Itâs Time for Questioning and When Itâs Time for Efficiency in Decision-making and Execution. A questioning culture can slow things down and, if itâs a hierarchical organization like the military, it can lead to confusion in strategy or lack of leadership direction. So itâs important to recognize if your organization isnât built for questioning at times when the pressure is on, deadlines are looming, and stakes are high.
3. Foster Candor and Psychological Safety. Part of the reason many employees donât feel comfortable asking tough questions is a fear of reprisal for being a âtroublemakerââor even losing their job. Author Edgar Schein poses a very important question that leaders can be asked as a measure to determine the level of psychological safety in an organization: âIf I am about to make a mistake, will you tell me?â If there is not enough candor and safety built into an organizationâs culture to honestly answer yes, then the next question becomes, âWhat do we need to do differently to develop and create that kind of culture?â Without it, people may take a less candid CYA (Cover Your Ass) approach to communication.
4. Be Clear That Alignment Is the Ultimate Goal of Questioning. A questioning culture is not synonymous with democratic decision making, although theyâre often confused to be the same. Companies that do this well make very clear when itâs the right time for questions and potential disagreements and when itâs time to align. Itâs critical to be explicit about this. Pat Lencioniâs book Five Dysfunctions of a Team (which we used as an Airbnb leadership team) gives good direction on how to clarify the difference between debate and alignment.
5. Make Sure Senior Leaders Are Actively Engaged in the Questioning Process. If senior leaders donât actively take part in the questions and debate, whether itâs because theyâre not in the room or because they are preoccupied on their phones or laptops, it sends a deadening signal to everyone else. Additionally, when a truth has been uncovered through the questioning process, but senior leadership doesnât see it or take action, this can dissuade energy expended by the group in a future debate.