And then a further definition: Tenderness is the creation of āa tiny artificial space in which it is mutually agreed that each will treat the other like a child.ā You see, I donāt show you what happens inside Jaromilās head; rather, I show what happens inside my own: I observe my Jaromil for a long while, and I try, step by step, to get to the heart of his attitude, in order to understand it, name it, grasp it.