Learning occurs most powerfully when you acknowledge fully what you are at this very moment with truthfulness and authenticity, and also compassion. You are your history, in this special sense. If you accept this, then you’ll be able to learn and improve your relationships, your self-expression, and your well-being. If you reject this, you’ll spend the rest of your life looking for an imaginary “right” world of safety.

Language brings forth the world that you live in. if you want to change, it’s profoundly useful to observe how you language yourself into being and in your relationships.

Making such distinctions is not an insult; it’s an act of taking care of another in the search for mutual satisfaction.

Even though your judgements aren’t the truth, you can make them with rigorous ‘grounding’.

When leaders, parents, lovers choose to share the reality of their heart, it gives everyone in their lives the chance to know them, to hold them—to trust each other.