..., the outcomes must be stated in sufficient clarity that both parties will be able to recognize them as occurring or not and also be able to discern what progress has been made toward them.

Perhaps that’s what friendship can do: the presence of another indirectly giving us better access to the hidden parts of ourselves.

Sometimes, when properly regarded, the problem in front of us is understood to be no problem at all, or at least not of the kind we believe it to be.

Putting things on paper makes things real, hardens them, makes them unchangeable, even before things have made sense.

In practice there is seldom a conflict but rather a confluence, a mutually rewarding arrangement.