Knowing how things are doesn’t make you see them correctly, doesn’t stop you from seeing things incorrectly. Stare at the image as much as you like, it’s all in vain. It will never surrender the truth, not to your naked eyes; you have to go in armed with a straightedge.

As I often say with my clients, a good first step to figuring out where you want to go is remembering how you got here.

There is a direct connection between what you feel when you do a behavior and the likelihood that you will repeat the behavior in the future.

Shifting identity helps you consider other new habits you might not have thought of doing that will move you closer to your aspiration.

By learning to pay attention to what’s happening in front of us, we gain more than the sensations of life; we also increase our ability to act. We’re not thinking about what’s already happened, about what might happen, about what we have to do later; we are alert to the moment, which is where any action must take place. If our intention is to connect with other people, being present is what makes that possible.