Again, you simply canāt think efficiency with people. You think effectiveness with people and efficiency with things. Iāve tried to be āefficientā with a disagreeing or disagreeable person and it simply doesnāt work. Iāve tried to give ten minutes of āquality timeā to a child or an employee to solve a problem, only to discover such āefficiencyā creates new problems and seldom resolves the deepest concern. I see many parents, particularly mothers with small children, often frustrated in their desire to accomplish a lot because all they seem to do is meet the needs of little children all day. Remember, frustration is a function of our expectations, and our expectations are often a reflection of the social mirror rather than our own values and priorities.