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Again, you simply can’t think efficiency with people. You think effectiveness with people and efficiency with things. I’ve tried to be ā€œefficientā€ with a disagreeing or disagreeable person and it simply doesn’t work. I’ve tried to give ten minutes of ā€œquality timeā€ to a child or an employee to solve a problem, only to discover such ā€œefficiencyā€ creates new problems and seldom resolves the deepest concern. I see many parents, particularly mothers with small children, often frustrated in their desire to accomplish a lot because all they seem to do is meet the needs of little children all day. Remember, frustration is a function of our expectations, and our expectations are often a reflection of the social mirror rather than our own values and priorities.