The Beast is a glutton but also a valuable motivator. The Baby is so pure and unsullied, so full of potential, but itâs also needy and unpredictable and can keep you up at night. The key is for your Beast and your Babies to coexist peacefully, and that requires that you keep various forces in balance.
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How do we balance these forces that seem so at odds, especially when it always appears to be such an unfair fight? The needs of the Beast seem to trump the needs of the Baby every time, given that the Babyâs true worth is often unknown or in doubt and can remain so for months on end. How do we hold off the Beast, curbing its appetites, without putting our companies in jeopardy? Because every company needs its Beast. The Beastâs hunger translates into deadlines and urgency. Thatâs a good thing, as long as the Beast is kept in its place. And thatâs the tough part.
The Beast thrives not only within animation or movie companies, of course. No creative business is immune, from technology to publishing to manufacturing. But all Beasts have one thing in common. Frequently, the people in charge of the Beast are the most organized people in the company - people wired to make things happen on track and on budget, as their bosses expect them to do. When those people and their interests become too powerful - when there is not sufficient push-back to protect new ideas - things go wrong. The Beast takes over.
The breast upon which the infant is so utterly dependent must be destroyed because of that dependence. The spoiling act is similar to that of a child who, being desirous of another childâs toy, breaks it to ward off its own feelings of helplessness. In the developing mind of the infant, sadistic attacks on the breast increase until it is entirely without value: in the words of Klein, âit has become bad by being bitten up and poisoned by urine and faecesâ. The stronger and more enduring the envy, the more difficult it becomes for the infant to reclaim the lost object, to make good through reparations.
If the therapist cultivates a life of serenity and neutrality, she stands a chance against the wild beasts that are let loose in a psyche that has not yet found its fenced pasture. In medieval Europe stories were told of the unicorn, a beautiful animal that could cause widespread damage and yet was the very symbol of health. The image of the unicorn at its most useful showed him in a small pasture surrounded by a wooden fence. The psyche needs some containment, a fence or a vessel, to keep its wildness contained.
The wiring for change is built in, but some sort of benevolent attention has to activate it. Winnicott called this the âfacilitating environmentâ and linked it to a motherâs natural, and âgood-enough,â devotion. He believed that aggression is intrinsic to a babyâs psyche, that it shows up as an aspect of an infantâs inherent self-centeredness, and that a good-enough parent coaxes a childâover timeâ from total demandingness into a recognition of the parent as a person in their own right.